Fat talk. We have all done it. We have all looked in the mirror at one time or another and said negative things about our physical appearance. I know I have and continue to do so. In fact, we probably do it so often that we don’t even notice it anymore.
We pinch our bellies and grumble about our thighs rubbing together and look at the dimples on the backs of our legs in disgust for years. We say it in our heads, we share it with our girlfriends, and even when our partners complement our bodies, we argue with their assessment. We do it so often that it seems totally normal. But it’s not.
We aren’t made to be filled with self-hatred, self-loathing and negative self-talk; yet somehow it has become completely acceptable to be our own worst enemy. Recognize that you and your body are completely unique. Maybe you have gorgeous hair, or a stunning smile, or a killer wit. So what if you don’t have six-pack abs or “perfect” legs? I can guarantee you have some pretty special qualities.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “We are our own worst critics,” and it’s so true. We say things to ourselves that we would never ever say to someone we love. We tell ourselves that we are fat, disgusting, gross, worthless, and hopeless. We tell ourselves that we will never achieve our goals, that we quit everything we start, that we aren’t worthy of being happy or loved. It rarely sounds crazy or mean in our own heads, but when we see it in writing, it’s easier to understand just how harmful that self-talk can be. With that kind of feedback, how could anyone succeed? It’s very easy to forget how much we affect the people around us. This is especially true with impressionable young children (especially girls). Some research shows that girls as young as five years old already have body dissatisfaction and express a desire to be thinner. This is absolutely ridiculous and should be the LAST thing on a little girl’s mind. Where do they get these ideas? Of course, we can blame society and how the media influences even at that age, but most often, they hear others (including us moms, sisters, grandmothers, aunts, etc.) talk negatively about our own bodies. Those trivial comments you make about your thighs, the way you react after stepping on the scale, and even your physical discomfort and shameful body language when wearing a bathing suit—kids pick up on all of this.
Remember, you are beautiful and worthy right at this very moment. Not 10 pounds from now. Not two sizes from now. Not two months of calorie-counting from now. Right now! It’s time you recognize this, and treat yourself like the amazing person you are. You deserve it.
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