Luke 6:30, 35-36 tells us to “give to everyone who asks of you, and whoever takes away what is yours, do not demand it back.” “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”
Do you feel that those in your life take advantage of you? Have you ever thought that they are taking your kindness as a weakness? And if your answer is yes, but you continue to allow it to happen, why do you suppose you are unable to put your foot down and say “enough is enough”. Are you afraid of losing someone’s respect or friendship? Is there anyone in your life that you think takes advantage of you over and over?
I am guilty of this. I am self-employed as a nanny and even in my personal life; my existence is doing for others. Every new nanny job that I start, I try to show my family that they have made the right decision by hiring me; therefore I go above and beyond to take care of their children and their homes. It usually ends up kicking me in the ass because then it’s expected and usually followed up by asking me to do more, without additional pay. Yes, it’s my fault by not speaking up but did they technically do anything wrong? Nope! I did by expecting people to appreciate me and what I do. I guess it would just be nice if someone did something nice for me in return. And yes, I understand that you are supposed to do things without expecting something in return. All I am saying is that it would just be nice. I usually walk away asking myself, “why did you clean that, straighten or wash that?” They could have cared less and didn’t seem too concerned with the fact that it took you 4 hours to clean ______. Most likely, I will continue to do what I do because it’s who I am and it’s what I do. I am a people pleaser. I pay attention to detail and things that need to be done. I am not one to sit around and do nothing. If I see something that can be done, I will take care of it.
Does anyone else feel this way? Maybe you have a story that you would like to share where you feel you were taken advantage of. I would love to hear from you. Please comment below.