It’s up to us, to find ways, to make ourselves happy. I’ve made a list for my wunderful readers that may help you along when you don’t know how to make it through the day. Even if just one of the items that I have listed below helps you, that will make me happy.
- Find joy in the present moment.
When we are unhappy, we tend to focus on things in a negative state of mind. Try and make it a practice to find something positive in any situation. You might be able to handle that unhappy moment just a little bit better.
- Take time to have fun.
I feel this so incredibly important. I, myself, struggle with this. Many of us limit ourselves from having any fun because we have an endless list of obligations and responsibilities. Do anything to get your mind off of life’s everyday stresses, even if it’s just going for a walk or going out to dinner.
- Read and watch things that inspire you.
You might think this means to read or watch something that is automatically identified as inspirational content. It simply means that if you’re going to watch something, try to find something that lifts your spirit. It doesn’t matter what it is. If watching a scary movie puts you in a better mood, then by all means, watch a scary movie.
- Spend time outside.
I love listening to the rain but I do suffer from (SAD) Seasonal Affective Disorder. It’s truly hard for me to get motivated when it’s gloomy outside. I find it very depressing. So, with that being said, I feel it is extremely important to spend time outside, when the sun is out. Whether, it’s a walk around the block, a walk to the park or just spending time in your back yard, make time spending it outside.
- Find a way, that you enjoy, to move your body.
It’s obvious, that exercising is the best way to move your body. Not everyone enjoys exercising, which means you need to find something that you enjoy. For me, it’s dancing. When no one is around, I like to turn up the music and dance around the house. It’s a great way to get a little cardio worked into your day. For you, it may be yoga, running or even swimming. Find something that you enjoy.
- Get out of your comfort zone.
Exploration is a huge part of finding new things that will bring about happiness in your life. Even if we go out of our comfort zone and end up doing something we ultimately don’t enjoy, the experience of doing something new brings an awareness and focus to your life that might have been lacking before. Get curious about the world around you. Become engaged. See what happens.
- Reconnect with an old friend.
This is simple. When you miss someone, call them. When you’re thinking about someone, tell them. Reach out to that person simply because your heart is calling you to do it. Contact them for your own wellbeing. Talk to them because you’ll know you did what was in your power – to let them know how you felt.
- Make time for the people you love.
This is so extremely important. We have a tendency to make time for people that we work with more than the people who we share our lives with and we supposedly love, more than anything. Our lives can get so chaotic that we forget our loved ones and we take them for granted. Make time for your spouse, your children, your parents or your friends. Maybe schedule an outing to reconnect with that special someone.
- Make time to be with yourself.
I would bet that if we don’t make time for our loved ones, we definitely don’t make time for ourselves. This is what I struggle with the most. Most of the time we’re compromising – with spouses, children, parents, bosses… a little of what you want and a lot of what they want – just to keep the peace. I mean when was the last time you took yourself on a date? When was the last time you did something completely alone, simply because you wanted to do it? No rushing. No timelines. No desired outcomes. Just pure joy, with yourself.
- Be lazy (without guilt).
How often do you allow yourself to simply exist without rushing and planning and executing? It might be time to redefine laziness as time for recharging so that you can actually take time to relax. If I’m not doing something to keep busy, I have a tendency to feel guilty. It’s hard for me to just sit on my couch and do nothing. When a person works hard, it’s important to be “lazy” and take care of yourself.
- Write down your dreams and goals.
You are not limited to the life you’re experiencing at this moment. Whether you absolutely love your life right now or not, you have the ability to create new dreams and goals and you have the capacity to pursue them. Buy yourself a journal and write down all of your goals and your dreams. How much would your life change, if you believed you could do it?
- Stop being negative. Call attention to the bright side.
I’m not saying that we should ignore every single negative thought we have. Sometimes the happiness hides in places we never expected to find it. How can I say something is positive when it’s negative? I’m obviously just trying to trick myself into believing something so I’ll feel better. I felt like that for the first couple of months I was working on this happiness technique. Until I realized that something is only bad or good because we decide to label it that way. We can find evidence for nearly anything. If you want to feel crappy about something, you definitely can. But that also means an opportunity for a silver lining is right under your nose.
- Question your assumptions.
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself if things are really as frustrating as they seem? Worry and fear are a part of human nature. Those feelings are supposed to protect us from danger… but in our modern reality, worry and fear can do more harm than good. We might not feel fantastic about a particular situation, but sometimes questioning our assumptions can lead us to understand that things might not be as bad as we think they are.
- Recognize one thing you love about yourself before you go to bed each night.
Let’s face it; we can’t rely on other people to give us the compliments we think we deserve. Other people are too worried about doing their own thing. So give yourself the compliments you want to hear. Tell yourself you did an amazing job. Let yourself know you look amazing in that outfit. Tell yourself you’re proud of everything you’ve accomplished.
- Give your full and complete focus to your current task.
Pat attention to what’s happening around you, and realize that your feelings are related to a particular understanding of your experience. Give your feelings the space to exist. Don’t judge them. Simply offer yourself space and time. Don’t worry about how this feeling will affect tomorrow. Just be there. Focus. Let that be enough.
- Experience love (both giving and receiving).
I’ll be the first to admit that after my husband and I have a positive conversation, I feel like a brand new person. We’ve learned to develop an amazing relationship and I’m so, so thankful for his presence, interest and love. Our conversations energize me. I truly believe our conversations are an exchange of love that fuels the rest of my day. Love has a tendency to do that. It’s like the ultimate battery. When you exchange that type of strong energy with another person, your happiness tank fills way up. So who fills you up in your life? Make sure you show them love as much as they show it to you. (Hi sweetheart! I Love you!)
- Allow yourself feel sad without guilt.
We don’t have to be upset that we are sad; we can just feel the weight of the situation until it lessens. Letting ourselves flow through our emotions as if we are watching them happen can free us from feeling trapped. Doing this really does make space for more peace and contentment in life. Don’t be upset with yourself for being human.
- Stop depriving yourself!
If you’re excited about something, happy about something, really interested in something let yourself experience it. Wear the outfit. Dye your hair. Take the class. Go on the date. And if the thing you’re interested in is a little more involved, find joy in learning about that thing first. Read about it. Listen to other people’s perspective. Do your research, and find joy in digging up the truth.
- Get rid of things you don’t need, don’t use or don’t enjoy.
Getting rid of things that are no longer useful can offer so much clarity. If they don’t serve a purpose in your life, it can create space for new and amazing things. It’s a great way to make some extra cash on things you don’t use. It’s also a great way to make you feel good about giving back and donating those unwanted items.
- Consider the big picture.
Take time to think about what you actually want to experience in life. Be excited that your perspective will probably change over time… this change means you’re growing and giving yourself space to become an even more amazing version of yourself!
- Learn to say no when you want to. (And yes when you want to).
How often do you say yes to something because you believe you have to? I have a hard time saying no to people. Probably way too many times! I feel I go above and beyond to please everyone and then I end up feeling exhausted and then having no time for myself. It’s okay to say no and it took me a while to realize it.
- Practice empathy and compassion.
One of the biggest reasons for stress and sadness is often related to our inability to see things from multiple perspectives. When we are upset with another person, we’re usually expecting a particular behavior from them. When we practice empathy, we understand things from their perspective. We can understand that they’re suffering, and when we can do this, our anger, sadness, and frustration can disappear.
- Pay attention to your values.
Everyone thinks that certain things are more important than others. Your values won’t always match up with the people around you. Coming to terms and standing firm in your values is a huge part of being happy. The closer your life aligns with your list of values, the closer you are to being truly fulfilled. No one else’s values have to match up; only yours.
Each one of you wunderful people has your own way of making yourself happy. Let me know what gets you through the day. I would love to hear what works for you. Don’t forget to sign up and follow me!